Una, you quoted my post; therefore, it seemed to all be directed in response to my post. And I still don't see the point of getting into a debate. You have your personal opinions on what a relationship looks like and should be, as do I. The OP needs to make up her OWN mind about how SHE feels about her boyfriend watching porn. It's up to her and her own comfort level. We can only try to help her to figure out her own feelings on this. Some people are perfectly OK with porn; others are very hurt by it and offended. IF someone is OK with it, then that's the end of the story. She has to determine where she really stands on the issue. It was important enough to her to almost walk away from the relationship --- or threaten to walk away. I am simply honoring her feelings. She also has to determine how she feels about him lying to her, a separate issue. She says she cannot deal with the lying. Our purpose as members is not to debate on here, but to help the OP.