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Have Hope · Feb 02, 2020 at 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

:It's an interesting thought, Have Hope, that women (as in reality it seems to be) should not feel bad about asking their partner to abstain. It hadn't really occurred to me, to be honest, but I can now almost hear an audible sigh of relief from womankind.

My anti-depressant has pretty much shrivelled my urges

but I've always had a high sex drive and certainly used porn. (there's plenty of women-friendly erotica out there). I still do, occasionally. The Fifty Shades phenomenon proved, I think, that women can be as dirty-minded as men.

I've not minded partners doing the same.

So, as you say, it's just down to a couple each time working out what's OK.

Thanks @Purple,Violet,Blue! Yes it totally comes down to individual preferences and also a couple’s ability to talk openly about it. I don’t think women should feel bad at all if they want to ask their partner to abstain, if it feels harmful to the female and therefore to the relationship overall. And men who truly care for their partner, who respect their partner and who care about their partner’s feelings, should be able to abstain for the health and sake of the relationship. That is what true love and partnership involves after all.