This is quite possible. I imagine that one reason for his secrecy is your threat to leave. If nothing negative actually happens to him, if you even marry him, he could be emboldened to practice his habit more openly.


I wonder if his interest in porn is actually an addiction. Have you googled porn addiction? There is a lot out there.

For example, stonewalling, defensiveness about using can be signs of an addiction.


Sometimes you just have to make people uncomfortable.

In general, how easy is it for you to bring up difficult stuff with people? Sometimes it is necessary to address difficult, uncomfortable stuff.

How will it be for you if you are married and he is using porn as much or more, with less secrecy, and you cannot bring it up because he is "uncomfortable"? You are then married both to him and to porn.