I agree with ALL the other wise and wonderful posters about avoiding this person if you can, @MrsA! Or at the very least, limit your conversations with them. Perhaps you can also talk to them about ALL of this and tell Him or Her that this behavior is bothering you. Hopefully he/she will understand that and try to restrain him/herself! In any case, keep taking care of yourself! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @MrsA, your Family, your Friend, this Family Member and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!