> how does this help any of us towards healing.

Good question. I'm not sure I have the answer. It helps me a lot just to write about it. It helps me understand myself and society and all the "stuff" I have been fed all my life (it seems). Maybe if people just think hard enough it might help them. Some, at least. I hope.

> It's just like hearing toxic people say it's all in our head's, all our imagination and not important.

Think about it. Is that what I said? It is in our heads alright, but not only ours. I did not say our suffering was unimportant. Just the contrary. I hope actually understanding all the suffering I have gone through can make a difference somehow.

If not, maybe I will return to my hole.