Hi LilyMop,

Human behavior really mystifies me although as a nonprofessional, I try to keep up with psychological theories and such.

I remember reading something about what you are talking about many years ago in a psychology book but my memory is not so good any more so I don't remember what the author said.

Not sure what current theorists offer as explanations for motivation in why shunning occurs. Hope you get lots of responses to your post though and that some prove helpful. .

You show great insight in my opinion and I think your question is very profound!