I've had what has been diagnosed as "Atypical Depression," over and over again. It was nothing like what you are describing. It was extremely severe and lasted several months to years.
I do understand BirdDancer's experience/description as being a part of transitioning or stabilizing within the experience of BP.. I think it's likely we all experience this.
The description you have given, Blue, sounds much more like a personality type of an issue to me. I believe I have read rapid mood changes based upon these types of external events are more likely BPD. However, I am not a pdoc!
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