im sorry, pach, but you should have known the repurcussions that would come along with a post like this. this is a support forum and that doesnt seem very supportive. whether or not its true, people are ready to hear it at different stages. not eveyone is ready to deal with hearing these things at the same time. someone who has been recovering for a while might be able to finally say "okay, i can change this. its all in my head." when some people might not. and sometimes it is all in their own head, while sometimes its not.

and to a question i saw earlier: many people would choose to be depressed subconsciously. some people... thats all they see. they think its normal. maybe their parents were depressed or whatever and their scared to change. almost everyone, even thought its (in the end) much easier to change, they will expend so much time and energy to stay the way that feels the most comfortable. and for a lot of people, being depressed is more comfortable because thats all they know. thats like asking "why dont women just leave abusive relationships?" there are many reasons and no one ever completely knows why. i do believe that most depression can be solved by the person and that its all in their own head. but its very hard to change and some people would rather stay the way they are instead of being happy.