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Originally Posted by Embarrassing
We have discussed the this a little bit and he has said he doesn't actually speak to any of the women or pay for anything on there he just watches/ views their snapchats and I do think he's telling the truth about that but , all snapchats are only able to be viewed once and then disappear unless it is sent to your "story" which can be viewed by friends for up to 24hrs. So if he was talking to them all evidence would be gone by now any way. Just the fact that this was all done on snapchat which is kinda the sneakiest app out there makes me feel more insecure. But I think everyone on here is right I think the main issues are his lying & not respecting my boundaries-he knew I view porn as cheating I made that clear from the beginning and my own insecurity issues & attempts to change him ( since I also have known he does this since very early on) I guess I just wish he would have told me he had no intentions of quitting from that start so we could have handled or ended things years ago. Again I really appreciate everyone respecting my feelings so much, you all are teaching me to show myself the same respect I have received from all of you. Thank you
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Hi. I’m so sorry you’re in this position. (((( hugs)))
Since the porn makes you very uncomfortable and you’ve made your feelings very clear to your partner, he still isn’t respecting your feelings by continuing his habit AND by lying to you about it.
I don’t think he will stop for your benefit. He will just get better at hiding it.
Guess you need to decide if you really can marry someone who has a porn habit/porn addiction. And how will you feel about it if you do marry him.
To me, it seems this is an important and glaring incompatibility. I don’t think you need to work on your insecurity over a porn habit. Many women feel exactly as you do about it. You’re not alone in feeling that way. But it would be an acceptance on your part of something that you don’t like and which makes you feel cheated on.
It’s a tough situation. If it were me, I would be so angry and hurt over being lied to. That would be a dealbreaker for me. But it’s up to you to decide what’s best for YOU. Only you know what’s best.