@Open Eyes gave a very good response to your situation, and I agree with her perspective 100%. While you are not sober, you and your wife will have a very hard time being together and/or relating. You must understand HER needs right now, which is rehab and sobriety. That's her priority, and you need to respect and appreciate that. Perhaps being together is not a good idea if you are not going to be sober. It will be most difficult for both of you. She probably needs this other person to help her through the difficulty of sobriety, because honestly, you're not going to be of any help to her with this. You must know and realize this. And yes, I am being blunt.