Ok... I feel that I need to clarify the list that I quoted. Yes, I've felt those things as different times since I've been a member here. HOWEVER... it doesn't necessariy mean that it's FACT or that the membership here is guilty of these things. More than anything, it has been a reflection of MY OWN state of mind. This has brought a new revelation. When I first posted to Isolated Guy that his quotation was great, it was my misquided effort to make him feel better. To tell the truth, the quotation didn't ring a bell for me. I didn't really understand it. (Eating my own words.) Since I've been giving thought to the "list," I've had another revelation. If indeed, "A failure is an event, never a person," then we effectively shed any responsibility for our own actions. Somewhere, some time, we need to start accepting the proper amount of responsibility for what happens around us. Granted, we can't control everything or everyone, but there IS a certain amount of personal responsibility that we need to own for ourselves. (Whoa! De Ja Vous! Where have I said this before??)

My mother always blamed "Fate" for her sad state in life, when in retrospect, I can see so MANY, MANY things she could have done to change her life!! She was more comfortable denying her responsibility for her life. It was so much easier to blame her mother, my half-syblings, her in-laws and finally me, for her misery.

Like Dave (DEXTER) used to say "LIVE IS WHAT WE MAKE IT."