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Originally Posted by rdgrad15
Oh I agree. Yeah, it is best to accept that people aren't going to be as close and also won't care how they affect you. I know some people that can't understand this concept and get so offended if they see that someone is not as close to them as they are to others. In some cases, yes, it may be due to a personality conflict, but in other cases, it's just how it is. Yeah I do see it as a form of advantage when you can tell if someone doesn't seem to be as close to you as they are to others. It prevents you from getting hurt. You know not to pursue them so therefore, no hurt feelings can arise. Yeah sorry if this post seemed confusing. Usually I provide examples and I'm referring to someone specific but in this case, it is more of a general observation towards anyone, not a specific person.
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Isn't that the way with all relationships? People who are closer will be able to adjust to the mood of another person and same dealing with someone who you are not as close with but in a different kind of way. I guess the best way I could think if it right now is not to be offended by a person who is distant but try to find ways to fulfill the relationship to be mutually beneficial without making yourself too vulnerable or creating conflict. sometimes that could mean giving a person space or telling them what you need.