That is HORRIBLE, @Mammaof2! Yes, I think this definitely counts as sexual abuse as it is not consensual. You can try to talk to him about it but I'm not sure where that will lead you. Beware of him getting violent - if he's doing this there's no telling of what else he may do to you. I'd also consider a divorce although I realize it is not easy. I'd also suggest to see a Therapist after you take your decision. I am so sorry this is happening to you! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Mammaof2, your Family, your Friends, your Children and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!