I am so sorry you lost your husband. How awful. (((hugs)))) You probably need more time to truly grieve the loss. Some people can be a comfort to us during a grieving period .but just know that your outlook and viewpoint on this man may be terribly skewed and colored because of your immense loss. And since he wants a real relationship, I would tread carefully with his heart and feelings. I would be completely upfront with him that you may not be in the best place for a relationship. Also, if it feels like TMI, then perhaps he's crossing a comfort boundary for you? When it feels like too much too soon, it usually is. He may be rushing into a relationship with you. I would caution you to be careful.