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Originally Posted by MrsA
Thanks everyone for sharing your point of view. I do avoid them as kucn as possible but it's complicated.
I do think I need to call them out on it. When I did in the past, they actually deny having said thing things they said and became self conscious about saying the same things in the future. The hard thing is remembering to do it in the moment.
I do think thos person has mental illness, butnthey can only see other people's behaviors and think other people are negative. I think there is a major lack of self awareness. They also twist things people say and repeat read put emails or quote people in a nasty tone of voice because they read offenses on ordinary communications. I will have to learn to confront these behaviors as soon as they happen.
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This family member sounds toxic. Often with toxic people, confronting their behavior is unproductive and backfires. Typically this kind of person will twist whatever you say around, so there's almost no point.
You can always just change the subject, politely excuse yourself, say that you're busy and limit your conversation with this person to the bare minimum. That's what I would do. Confronting them may make it worse for you, without any resolution or acknowledgment of their poor behavior since they lack self awareness. That could be even more frustrating.