thank you for your response.

i have thought of reporting her for the drugs, but domestic violence? there is no evidence of that. and i've come to the conclusion that by me doing that would only make things worse for both my son and me. and as long as my granddaughter is being taken care of and fed and more importantly not abused in any way i'm willing to be the outsider keeping tabs.

she has another daughter, 14, from another relationship that is basically typical, except for the fact she has gender acceptance questions she is trying to work through. never any indications of any abuse from what i know.

bottom line, this is one of the most difficult things i am witness to. and i am still clinging to the hope that my son will one day separate from her.