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Originally Posted by Eleny
At the moment it feels as though I'm going around in circles. Every session is the same. She asks me why I didn't go to AA this week. She asks me do I not want to have a good life. She asks me why I continue to drink.
I think she's trying to reinforce reality but I don't think it's working. There are some very positive aspects to my therapy of course but this is just a huge stumbling block.
Do you have any advice? I feel so lost. Thank you.
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This sounds bad to me as well, asking why you don't want to have a good life (ugh). It sounds to me like she doesn't understand addiction. My T has talked about how difficult addiction can be, that it's not as simple as "I want to stop, so I'll just stop." And he's said with me, the reasons I drink are complex (not just one reason--and I could drink for different reasons within one day, for example, like different reasons at different times). He gets it. And seems to understand that I need to get other stuff in place before I can either stop completely or significantly cut back. He lets me bring it up when I want, but doesn't push me on it otherwise.
So, I think you need a T who understands addiction. Or if you don't want to leave her, tell her that her approach isn't helping, that it's not as simple as "OK, I want to improve my life so I'll stop immediately."
