Hello feb2002user, I don't want anyone to take sides, that's for sure. My friend at work told me best it's just hard to swallow, We can't say if she has or has not...but I have to ask myself how much is enough regardless of who is right or wrong. That's why I'm looking to people who have the experience, and who have been there. I am listening it's just hard to getmyself out of the gears I'm in. I thank you again. I do mean that...with the I'm only hearing one person's explanation.

Because everytime we fought she would tell me that everyone on her side of the fence agrees that she is in the right and i'm wrong. Not once did I hear that there was anyone that said...we haven't heard his side. Doesn't mean it wasn't said. But her conviction was that it was everyone she talked to about it. I don't know if she told them what made me go in to anxieties that caused me to lash out. I don't know if she told them I had managed the house and kids during our alcoholism and kept my job (barely).