kiya i am glad your being safe... i know how hard it is... showing your t is a really big step and i don't think she thinks your showing her to get attention... i know that as much as i hate it, knowing that he will have me show him has been a major deterrent for me... sometimes i think "i will just lie" but i don't do that too well... so as much as i want to, i don't....take gentle care...lyn