If any of the children are old enough to know a towel from a nightgown, now is the time to teach them how to sort clothes; how to fold clothes. Even fairly small children can learn to straighten the covers on their beds, set the table, put toys away, and kids like to help. You can enlist the children to help you with household chores; you are a family unit after all. As for detoxing, please consider consulting your doctor. That is nothing to mess around with by yourself. Do you have leave coming to you at work? If you have it, take it if you need to. Not sure why you are attending NA meetings instead of AA; if you don't have a narcotics problem yourself, and have to choose only one program, I would choose AA. This is the sort of support I was talking about in my previous reply. I understand having to work in order to live. But I also understand a little time off in times of extreme stress is a good thing, assuming you can do it.