I can understand something on an intellectual level and still feel like everything is bad. The black and white thinking doesn't go away just because of logic. It is great you have had DBT. I have not. I question whether I am even capable of doing it.

I hope you can get through this with your girlfriend. It sounds like you both care for each other a lot. I have been married for a long time, and my husband has put up with my problem. I feel really guilty that he has had to endure all that he has. I am trying to get help for it.

Try to be gentle with her. I am sure the attraction has not worn off. It is just settling in to a real relationship. I wish you both well.