My ex did, yes. After one of our fights he would try to downplay how bad it really was. He would say that it was normal for couples to argue as if our fights were simply arguments. But they weren't. Our fights would end with broken plates and one of us storming out before it got violent. One of our neighbors even called the police on us once. I was so embarrassed, but thinking back, I'm really glad they did.

At least he never claimed that these arguments were supposed to help me. I'm very sorry you went through that.