Tough dilemma. I try to dampen the whole wondering about what the other person thinks/feels and try to see what I actually want. I say go for it if it makes you feel good to hear from T. It is a simple thing ("just" an e-mail) but I always had trouble reaching out, asking for something (because I didn't get it, was slapped down, so learned not to ask but to "steal" what I could from the Other instead). Asking for and expecting a simple, pleasant reply would be a big thing for me.