Everyone here has messed up attachment stuff, that's why we spend hours and hours, comment after comment, discussing our therapists and the incidental details of our therapeutic relationships. My most effective strategy to date is to routinely cause ruptures in order to break my heart and make her angry - has the additional benefit of ensuring inconsistency and volatility which means I never allow myself the chance to build a healthy attachment. Isolation continues, I feel wretched - job done!