Hi! I just signed up here because I am very confused about what is going on in my marriage.
My husband and I are married for 11 years.

Sex has always been an issue, because his sex drive is way bigger than mine.

He basically wants to have sex all the time and he has a way of making me feel guilty if we don´t have sex at least 3 times a week.
Lately I realized that he also touches me when I am asleep. He waits until I am - what he thinks - deeply asleep and then he starts touching my vagina while also touching himself. He tries to make sure I am not waking up. If I move, he back away and waits for a couple minutes before he proceeds. It usually ends with him fingering me until he orgasms. I don´t know when this started and I haven´t said anything yet. Because I first wanted to know if this is a reoccurring thing. Turns out it is. It happens every other night.

I am just so disappointed and confused. He is totally fine the next morning. As if he thinks he has the right to touch me without my agreeing to it.

Is this considered sexual abuse? Of course, we need to have a talk but I just want to be prepared for that talk. And I don´t even know what to say. I am just so extremely angry that he thinks it is ok to do this to me.

He is an amazing father and not a bad man. I know he loves me, but this can´t be right...