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Originally Posted by winter4me
I am a mother of adults, I do not feel I need to 'help no matter how unwelcome the help may be' (apologies if I am not quoting exact wording). Unwanted help is intrusion.
It truly sounds like time to back off on beating up on the mother....
It sounds so unhealthy for everyone, especially the kids as they pick up on Everything. She knows she is being piled on so it likely makes it really impossible for her and your son to work together on anything.
If there is real reason to involve authorities, do so.
Otherwise, perhaps talking to a T would help you to deal with the situation in a less (I say this based only on what I have read) destructive way.
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i do not remember saying 'help no matter how unwelcome the help may be' , but you may be quoting another poster. i have backed off, and they are now into what i call the "honeymoon stage." up down up down...
as long as my granddaughter is a part of my life, healthy, and happy, it's up to the 2 of them, being "adults" to figure this out. after all, sometimes separating proves to be the best thing for everyone involved.