Thank you so much everyone! I will take all of your advice into consideration and I did read over the article on controlling behavior. Thankfully bf doesn't do any of those. The issue with my brother is the only thing we really argue about.

I talked with him last night. He did apologize for venting about my brother to me and he said he understands that we're family. But he also said that he isn't going to pretend to like my brother. He'll be civil when he has to talk to him, but that's it. I think that's all I can really ask for.


Hmm I don't feel he's that way though. Maybe I've given the wrong impression of him and I should clarify something. I still agree with everyone that he shouldn't badmouth my brother to me or try to get between us. But my brother REALLY isn't a good person as I mentioned in the first post. He's a narcissistic psychopath who has been in prison for serious offenses and he may be in serious trouble again. It's hard to tell with him because he always tries to play it off as some big misunderstanding. I still love him because he's family and he's always been there for me when I really needed him, but I can also understand why someone wouldn't be able to get along with him.