I think secrecy is bad all together. But I don’t think it’s a major concern here. It’s very alarming that your husband had no interest in seeing his minor child for over 3 years.

I’d not be able to date let alone marry a man who has no interest in having relationship with his minor children.

If he didn’t want this child, he had to use condom. Hopefully he knows that unprotected sex leads to children, in this sad case unwanted children. Big price to pay for a little bit of fun

I’d not stay with this guy