I mean, not really. I've no doubt that there are stalkers whose primary motivation is control. And on a long enough timeline, it usually ends up being about control. But the initial motivation seems to be varying degrees of curiosity/obsession, impulsivity and disregard for boundaries.

I normally don't have any intention to use information I've obtained to exert power over people, not unless they angered me or I believe they could be dangerous. For the most part, I'm just curious about them and don't care enough about their boundaries to back off.

I'm more self-aware nowadays, but it's a conscious effort to give people space.