Update: I talked to someone about how I was feeling. Mainly I talked about my confusion about whether it's okay to have a guy friend who I feel connected to and care about. This person I spoke with said that it may be that because I have been lonely in the past and because companionship is natural, it makes sense that I would think this way and wonder and worry. But she also said that I could be experiencing transference. Like, basically, he's there. And so my feelings go there. Even though I am not attracted to him and don't want anything more.


We hung out last night. It was really fun. At one point though, we were talking, and I told him that a few years ago I had some untreated issues and I gave him an example. He seemed to condemn me. Which made me feel really badly. He's just not good at being supportive. Which sucks because he loves how supportive I am with him. I do think.......acceptance is key. And then protection. Like not opening up as much. And then probably pull away a bit. I feel like....if I told him "what you said made me feel bad" I'd be saying it all the time. But it's an idea. I could possibly do that too.

@sarahsweets, can you explain or elaborate more what you mean? It sounds like you think I have expectations about how this friendship should be and I don't. There are things I wish he did say / didn't say, did do / didn't do. But I'm not sure it's warranted to ask that of him because we are only friends (and that's all I want, friendship). Does that make sense? Also what exactly is important about our back and forth history to you? I'm confused about what you're saying. In terms of accepting him for who he is (unable to give me what I need emotionally as a friend), it sucks but yes I'm working on accepting it and I think pulling back is a way to do that. Maybe also dating people and spending time with other people.

@Be Still I appreciate that you validated me. I feel that there are some things he is doing and saying that seem like signs that he likes me too. I've only asked him about the gift, and he just said he was just so happy to be accepted for being trans by me, that he wanted to give me a gift. I said something in my OP about this, that when he gave me the present (Literally like 10 mix CDs), I decided to talk to him to get clarity on his intentions. He said he just liked me as a friend. I'm confused about your question about boundaries. But I do not think I need to say anything to him at this point. I think I can set my own boundaries. I am not aware of him seeing anyone else at this time. Why? Thanks!

@Discombobulated I know I said I was going to come back to talk more, but I forget what it was I was going to say.