Thank you everyone for the advice!
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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
I think it helps to look at the motivations behind your boyfriend complaining about your brother. Does he want you to intervene?(not that you should) Is he hoping your brother will change? Does he want your brother out of the picture? If he has expectations about how your brother fits into things he should ask.
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Ok so I tried to ask him what his motivations were, but I don't think he even knows for sure. He kept mentioning that my brother gives him a bad feeling like he shouldn't trust him. He doesn't know about my brother's diagnosis, but he does know that he was in prison when he was younger. He did say that he doesn't want either of us to intervene and he doesn't want my brother out of the picture. He only wants me to be more wary of my brother's intentions. I think. He also apologized for being irrational and promised to try to be more polite with my brother.
Thanks for the suggestions. I'm really glad I asked and I think I understand his position a little better, but I'm not sure I'm going to keep pressing my boyfriend with any more questions unless something else comes up. I feel like I'm making him defend himself at this point. And as I mentioned earlier, I don't want him to feel like he's being forced to like someone.