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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Hey @WovenGalaxy:
I am sorry if I wasnt clear. Everyone has expectations with any sort of relationships as they should. Many times when our needs are not being met it helps to clarify those expectations for someone. It sounded like to me that you two are pretty tight so I was thinking that if he knew what your needs were then he would either be more considerate of them because the friendship is mutual or state that he cant meet those expectations. I wasnt trying to put you down or accuse you have having expectations that you shouldnt have. Everyone has expectations in friendships and relationships and not all of them have to be stated. But when our needs are not met its up to us to share what those needs are in order to have them met. My idea was maybe if he knew that you needed he would be more mindful.
And regarding your history I only meant that you were saying its been back and forth and maybe that was a good clue as to how things would go with the friendship.
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sarahsweets
Thank you sarahsweets! I appreciate this a lot and your honesty. Thanks for getting back to me. I think you and discombobulated are right about communicating needs. How else would a person know? I myself, would want my friend to tell ME if I said something to offend. I wouldn't want him to bottle it up. He is very kind and sensitive himself, so I'm guessing he would be kind about my communicating openly about how I feel sometimes and what I need from the friendship. In term of back n forth, we've never been this close of friends before. The future is a mystery. But I'm happy we are friends.