I am not sure that the suggestions to contact her are in your best interests. I think this is a brutal and stark learning point - we are all less important to our therapist than their family and inner circle of friends/loved ones. I don't think the solution here is to try and reach her, I think it is far more meaningful for you to work through the reality of the therapy relationship and how hurtful relational limits can be. But by god, that is painful.