I loved the idea of making and freezing dinners. I'm gonna steal that one myself, lol.
But why not make a calendar and put on it what you need done on certain days. (I know, men probably wouldn't do the stuff anyway, but it's a suggestion!)
Also, about the depression....it is so hard to make someone understand what you are going through if they haven't been through it themselves. I am in the same situation. I have even had my husband sit in on my counseling sessions in the past and after he left, it was the same old!

But I have a friend who was having the same problem as you and then she started writing a list for him everyday. (Just a few easy items.)
And he was releived because he didn't have to try and guess what she wanted, go figure???
In the meantime, take care of you too!!!