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Originally Posted by bluebicycle
Just when I thought I could escape my sister's drama...
My dad and mom wanted to bring me to dinner to one of my favorite restaurants in the city on their way back from somewhere, so we went there. My mom sent a text message to our family group text saying that we were eating Japanese bbq (where you have a grille in the middle of your table and cook stuff on it) and she took some pics of us. Then my sister got all pissy and said, "so I am not invited? You did not invite my boyfriend and me?"
She always expects to be invited to everything and have everything paid for. She even wanted a free meal for her boyfriend (since neither she nor he pays). What is her f_cking problem? Then she sent a bunch of manipulative texts to my mom saying, "I guess this is Happy Valentine's Day for me and my boyfriend?" And saying stuff like, "wow, you obviously have favorites in the family."
She is such a b_tch. Seriously. I hope she gets what's coming to her one day. And all I can say is that when my parents die, I am NOT helping her. It's my parents' decision to enable her and give in to her demands, but I am NOT making that mistake with her. She is a f_cking piece of sh_t. There. I said it.
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Blue, I am so sorry!
I am sorry your mom (or parents) allowed your sister to carry on through the meal. She wants the attention whether or not she is present and your mom should know better.
I do not know exactly where you are at with this. Well, I know you are fed up. I am wondering if you are close to talking with your mom about her enabling, even just starting with the way she had allowed your sister to carry on throughout your time with your parents today?
I do not want to put pressure on you to do anything before you are truly ready to do so. I do want to support you and I want you to realize you are probably going to have to have a heart-to-heart with your mom , with her cell phone "off."
I have intimated a lot to you about a very similar situation in my life. My sister could not have carried on all of these years, and still be doing the same or even more, IF "mother" had not allowed this. Mother still allows this and gets upset whenever I tell her she is as responsible as is my sister. Oh well, the truth is my mother has been very involved in promoting the dysfunction in the family as a whole. I love my mother dearly and most people know she lives with me right now. I am dedicated to her well-being; yet, that does not mean she is not responsible when it comes to enabling family discord.
You can love your mom and still not like what she has been doing. Having a chat with her about this does not mean you don't love her.
I am so sorry you have had this experience again, just when you were given the opportunity to maybe spend some quality time with both mom and dad.
