Going minimal contact benefits me and moving away from Germany to Canada was an important first step out of denial. However, to really overcome the influence of a toxic parent I think one needs to get the anger out of the head. But how do I do that? My mom's extreme provocation from last May was probably an attempt to gain power by making me angry and guilty. While my anger is natural and totally justified I fear it's also a source of self-defeating behaviour.

Am currently reading Susan Forward, Toxic Parents. Very insightful book, haven't gotten to the advice section yet.