I agree 100% with all the above.. I find it bothersome that you discussed this "perfect" with kids, brought him around family ect.. am i the only one who feels like you are just with him to get the "X" jealous?? You seem to want to keep a standby around.. yet cant make up your mind...I think it wouldnt be a bad idea at all to just spend some time alone and with your kids instead of all this time and effort in this ping pong game.. which you dont seem even serious about... Stop leading this guy on... lets be fair thats pretty much whats happening here....