This is an interesting question. I think it's a challenging one. I tend to try to overcontrol, I think to make up for the lack of control I felt in my life and family as a child. To some degree it is useful to try to make changes in our environment and not stay passive. It's healthy I think to try to control aspects of our lives. However, there is a part of life that is beyond our control, and that I think is necessary to accept sometimes. Like, I have a tendency to try to fix things that are things others need to fix about themselves, or to try to make things absolutely perfect when I could loosen up a bit, or when things don't go my expected way, I could use to be a little more relaxed and adapt. On a related note, I think it's a balance between setting boundaries to protect ourselves, and being vulnerable, which is a place where we can connect with people.

Regarding the therapy, have you found any therapist whose style you liked? Maybe if you think of what it is you want of a therapist ahead of time you could try out a few until you find one you like. I really didn't like the style of my past therapists, but do like my current one.