Have you tried talking to your therapist about how you feel like you aren't able to connect with her? Sometimes being very direct about something like that can lead to revealing conversations and changes in the relationship. Or maybe it wouldn't, and that would be useful information too. The therapeutic relationship is supposed to be set up so that you can be fairly blunt, which might be scary or refreshing depending on how direct you are in other contexts.

You can also try another therapist and see how that feels. Maybe you will do the same thing with that therapist, and maybe you won't.

I'm sorry to hear about your therapist who died. I know how rough that can be. Do you think that you might not be able to connect with this new therapist because on some level you are trying to protect yourself after what happened with your previous therapist?