It sounds like you are putting in all the effort without getting reciprocation. I had a bf once who said he would never take me for granted, and then ended up doing just that. It's almost as though your bf knows he has taken people for granted in the past.

So why not break up if you're not getting what you need? You're not engaged or married and there's no sense in wasting your energy and time on someone who doesn't give you what you need and want. What's holding you back from just ending it?

And I think you saying you got him a card for Valentine's Day was a perfect moment for him to think, aha! I should at least get her a card. The fact that he didn't and that he only had a mere few words to say in reply speaks VOLUMES.

I would dump him. In this case, the grass IS greener on the other side.