Oh my goodness! That is terrible, I am so very sorry. Does your husband have history with anger/short temper? If this is his reaction to a 3 year old I cannot imagine how he argues with you or the other kids. This is not an environment any child wants to grow up in. This is abusive behavior and it’s sickening and traumatizing the entire family.

What are your options of dealing with this? Does speaking to your husband about this work? Are you financially stable enough to temporarily separate (worst case scenario).?