A child should not live in FEAR of a parent. A parent should NEVER threaten a child's life like that. A child can get traumatized from this kind of abuse and develop PTSD.

What are you going to do, wait for your husband to punch your little child next time instead of spit at him?

Have you read about childhood emotional neglect and how the affects from that can last the individual's entire life?

YES!! little boys can take longer and can pee their pants and wet their bed. PATIENCE is required, not spitting at them, dumping water on them, and threatening their life. And this little boy is mimicking his father by spitting at his sister? That is not good AT ALL.

It's time for you to take action even though it's scary for you to do so.