So my best friend met her boyfriend in our senior year of high school and at first everything seemed fine. They took it really slowly and after about 4 months of just dating they finally made it official. There were only a few problems after that like this girl he use to be with not leaving them alone and trying to sabotage their relationship but after months she’s finally out of the picture but that not the point. My point is there weren’t that many problems but after two months of dating he started showing his true colours. Because of this my friend would call me late at night crying about something he’d done and I’d give her advice. Then a few days later another problem and another call. After a few times of this happening I was like enough is enough she has to leave him but no matter what I said or what anybody else said she wouldn’t leave him.


Fast forward a year later and it’s gotten so bad. A few months ago he hurt her a lot and so her dad pressed charges for domestic violence but even after what he did she did everything she could to try and drop the p.o and the charges. I tried to talk her out of out of but she kept telling me she loved him and she can’t let him go to jail. Unfortunately he didn’t go to jail and the po was dropped right after the court date. Months later and they’re still together and he doesn’t hurt her physically anymore but he keeps emotionally abusing her and this everyday of her messaging me.


He never listens to her when she asks him for example to stop talking to this certain girl he’s been flirting with even tho she dropped every guy friend she’s ever had when he asked her to even tho those guys weren’t even trying to get with her but we’re just good friends. The other day he kicked her out. KICKED HER OUT FOR NO REASON AT ALL, who does that? I told her to come to mine instantly but 5 mins later she she sends me a message “he’s asking me to come back, idk what to do. I have to go back, I’m going to go back” so she went back and she forgave him even though he didn’t apologize.


I feel like such a **** friend for putting her business out here but i don’t know what to do anymore especially after today. She sent me screen shots of their argument and even though it wasn’t her fault he was blaming it on her like he always does. He blames everything on her and makes her feel guilty but today was really bad. I was trying to give her advice but then she surprises me with “it’s ok, it’s my fault. This is all my fault. He right. I should listen to him and do what he wants me to do so he can love me.” After that I thought I was being pranked bc the best friend Ik isn’t like this, she strong. But when it comes to this guy she lets him control her, use her, manipulate her. This guy is hurting her everyday day like on their one year anniversary he didn’t spend any time with her then threw a party, like brought his whole family and cousins, made the whole day bout him, turns out none of his family even knew she existed and he didn’t even introduce her. We sat in her room the whole time then he came in then screamed at her when she tried calmly talking to him about it.


i don’t know what to do anymore, after her sending me that I can’t let this go on anymore but Idk how to stop it bc she keeps using “I love him more than anything” and “I need him” i don’t know what to do. Please if any of you have advice help me because this dude is breaking my best friend and I can’t let him do that. I can’t. I’m sorry for grammar mistakes I typed this really fast and I’m too drained to read over it to fix anything.