Rip,

I'm sorry you are obviously hurting. This is the concusion I have come to regarding phone calls:

If I call him and he doesn't call back--->>>> I call again if I really really need to talk to him that day.

But, I try like hell to be as clear as possible in my message about what I need from him. I know he's really busy so sometimes I ask him to leave a return message when he can and I let him know what I need to hear him say!

Peace I hope you feel better.