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Originally Posted by Twinmama831
Update: Everything hit the fan when he woke up. I got angry he wasnt speaking and said I was taking the children with immediate family for dinner. When he repeatively asked who, he knew it was my mother, whom he hates. He went and grabbed a hammer from the tool box, and said he was calling police. When he came through with the hammer, I didnt know if he was going for me or the door. I panicked. My mom and her boyfriend were parked around the corner but I dialed 911 because of his threats, I hung up. They call back and my husbands in the background saying Im free to go wherever, when I KNOW he was going to smash up my mothers car (or worse). (He has damaged a friends car of mine years ago with a round weight...that was PFA #2 I had.)He called his father, his father came down knowing police coming. (Later on he says I betrayed trust for calling...) They took their time. The police show up and I explained it. The whole story. My whole day. As long as we were "okay" and he didnt swing at me it was "fine"... the trooper also has twins and has worked overnights and short tempers I guess.. my mom was very upset and was asked to leave when they did The cop actually reccommended my husband put a PFA on my mother... I'm at a loss. Im so conditioned to this, I am from a broken home, my homes broken.. and all my husband wants to blame yesterday on was my mother. He doesnt even see what he did to our son it seems.
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STop TRYING to reason with him. He doesn't care what you think. He is dangerous. When you are living with abuse, it is difficult to see how terrible it is; it is literally brainwashing. Can you stay with your mom? How will you forgive yourself if he injures or kills your children. If he kills you, what will happen to your children. ?Does he have guns? You re the only thing standing between the abuser and your children. They are helpless. You CAN find the courage to save yourself and your children. It is like your house is on fire, and you are waiting for it to stop; it wont. I, too came from a broken home and divorced an abuser. What if he takes a hammer to you or your children? If you stay, someone is going to be injured or dead (one reads stories like that every day). Iunderstand your fears, but you cannot let them stop you from saving your children and yourself...you are all living in a war zone with a raging "animal." Abusers need control; that is why it is so dangerous when you leave, and why yu need an escape plan to stay safe...Police can come to your house and escort you to safety. PLEASE don't wait any longer to leave.....This is an emergency situation; stop trying to reason or explain to him; he is full of rage and won't stop. .