Thanks. I agree support groups can be helpful and I´m glad you have yours to go to. I agree it´s important to have someone to share things with outside treatment.
The problem is that I need both and I don´t know how to get there. As you said, my counselor told me I have a lot of insights myself but I feel it´s more me who discuss my issues on a deeper level than she is.
She agrees when I tell her about a pattern I see or how some issue can be connected to the past. But she doesn´t help me in processing things on a deeper level or on an emotional level but sticks to her broad perspective.
I´ve seen this rather a lot, not only with the counselor I currently see. Within public health care they seem to ignore what the patient wants to talk about and just skip forward to solutions of different kinds. By that, they never learn how to listen and how to help patients process things.
I feel my counselor doesn´t understand me on a more emotional level, perhaps she´s worried she´ll come "too close" to me or similar. I´m thinking of telling her that she can "go closer to me", that is, she can talk to me about my issues in a more personal way. I though fear she won´t be able to do that.
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Having my support group "be there" for me has been a big help as I deal internally, and mostly by myself, with internal stuff and anxiety and depression that go along with it sometimes.
I know that having just one person being there isn't the same but, for me, having trained therapists, the last with excellent credentials, didn't help me resolve my issues much. It did help me find, or rather throw me back into, some of the causes of some of my problems, maybe. But resolve them and move forward, no.
I would have been very much worse off after my last therapist terminated me, if I hadn't had that group.
I think you said that your counselor said that she thought you had good insight into your problems ? I have found that knowing my support group people are there for me, and care about me helps relieve and depression so that I can sometimes make better progress at resolving the other things on my own.
There are people on this forum in therapy with psychodynamic T's who have reported ambivalence, too. I never had a lot of that -- my pattern was perhaps too determined -- but it doesn't seem to be that unusual.
I can understand how frustrating the situation is for you. Frustration like you have talked about is NOT pleasant. Wanting to avoid that kind of unpleasant feeling is natural. Hopefully it will get better with time?
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