I think it should also be mentioned that your advisors are sounding a bit harsh right now because they're afraid for the safety of you and your children. When one offers advice on something like this, it's difficult not to get emotionally involved, especially since a lot of them have lived through similar experiences and know firsthand how bad it can and will get.

Maybe I'm pointing out the obvious, but in case anyone's forgotten, we're all human and occasionally get a bit emotional at times.

Well, most of us. Heh.