I think stripping away the outer shell of the experience of anger and getting down to the root of it is important. Most of the time the anger I experience is a projection of something deeper that is rooted in fear, shame, abandonment, or something of the like. Anger isn't a primary emotion for me. It is a byproduct of not addressing a first cause scenario.

No therapist ever taught me that. It seems to be my pattern after analyzing my anger. I also experience frustration a good bit and it can feel a lot like anger, but its truly different when I take a deeper look.

I cope by being brave enough to recognize the behavior and look at it through as many perspectives as possible. It makes me feel better to know I'm actively trying to work out why I'm making the choices that I do. I still might make the choice to feel anger in the future over the same situation, but I'd rather choose than feel like my emotions are in charge of me.