20-25 something years ago back in the hayday of MSN and AOL chatrooms ... I had a friend. Very sweet and kind and just couldn’t believe someone would lie.

She met lots of guys online, oh they sounded great ! She would type away for hours , they would make plans to met , some plain never showed or the ones that she did meet had used 20 year old pictures.

I kept trying to tell her slow the hell down, why can guy x only see you on Monday and not a Friday etc etc etc. why is he too busy to meet for a coffee but wants to meet at a bar ?

She was desperate and would accept crumbs. Often told people where she lived , not the address but she allowed them to pick her up at the restaurant or grocery shop ?? A literal stranger ?? She’s lucky she wasn’t a statistic.

I honestly got sick of it .. I made a fake account found a decent looking guys Picture on line and started chatting (typing) her up, I talked about my job as a office manager of some fake company, I talked of wanting a family one day, I cut off the conversation because I “ got a call “ I talked to her 2 more days, 3rd day my neighbor came over and pretended to be that guy for me .... she gave him her home address !!!!!! So I drive over and she opens the door...

I could have been a rapist,killer, some kinda crazy obsessive freak.

She finally realized how dumb she was for believing everyone.

It’s a shame people aren’t all trust worthy, but people lie for alll kinds of reasons.

A year later and much pickier she met a nice guy through that chat room and had a baby on the way.

My husband ? Yep met him online MSN local chat room , we typed back and forth for months eventually , talked on the phone all hours of the day. He had 3 boys , business owner.. we were friends , we got involved romantically 6-8 months later. This year is our 16th year anniversary.

If your willing to accept breadcrumbs then expect vultures.

Raise your standards , go slow, you have posted somewhere about it’s not safe for you to have another child so your biological clock ticking isn’t an excuse. Build a good relationship with the daughter you have. Find hobbies, learn to enjoy being okay alone with yourself.

Acting desperate will only attract losers and abusers.