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Originally Posted by RosesAreRed487
Thank you this helped a lot. I’ve suggested getting help before but she won’t do it. Her parents aren’t really in her life either so I can’t try and talk to them. Her dad was but he kicked her out so she lives with her boyfriend right now which just makes the situation even worse. I think she’s just desperate for love because she never had it growing up. Idk. This whole situation is just so bad and now I feel like there’s nothing I can do, I feel so useless. But I have to keep trying to help her.
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I am sorry RosesAreRed, it's unfortunate but from what you describe of your friend, she doesn't even know what healthy love means. This is what happens when a child never gets love and nurturing and to experience healthy parents and what a healthy home environment means.
Sometimes, there are grandparents that can step in, and yet other times this problem is just handed down from a mother who's husband was unhealthy and selfish or drug addicted etc. It's painful to witness how a young girl her age can only know abandonment so tends to cling on to some kind of abuser like what you are describing you are witnessing. And for this friend, she is too old to experience being placed in a home where couples take on children so the children can experience and observe what healthy love is like.
I don't know what else you can do for her. Don't know if there are some kind of group homes for this kind of individual either that age out of being able to experience living with individuals that can provide a safe nurturing environment.
It sounds like she has already graduated high school and got kicked out by her father and isn't furthering her education but becoming a dependent with a guy that abuses her. It's so unfortunate, but this happens a lot more than it should.
I don't know if there are any programs she can get involved with where she can move forward in a healthier direction. I guess you have to do some searches to see if there IS anything in the state/area you live in in Canada.